Conscious Relationships | elephant journal

Most people are driven by their willpower.

Generally we do things in our lives because?our will, our ego, creates the logic of: ?I want this, I want that? and ?When I have this, I will be happy.?

The ?I want? syndrome creates patterns which can form?a vicious circle of jealousy, anger and darkness, creating a world of fear, doubt and?discomfort, moving us away from the true self which is connected to joy, love and?light.

The result is our need for love becomes stronger than our ability to express love.

In this world, we see things from a highly individual perspective that places a?continual state of stress on our body, our breathing and our mind. We do not realize what?motivates these ?I wants.? By having thoughts like, ?If I do not do enough, I will not be rewarded,? we forget that the ?I? is?only an illusion and that this vicious circle will simply never satisfy us.

From the moment we are born, the most important aspect of life becomes relationship.

Relationship is central for survival and for a sense of belonging and well-being. To?understand relationship is to understand that this is what makes us human, but sometimes we bring too much of the ?I want? syndrome into the relationship.In the beginning we learn to relate to what is closest and most dear to our heart, and?this is the love a mother has for her child. We understand that relationship is an?expression of love, a sharing of love and a communication of love.

Then the ego forms and most of us forget this core aspect of relationship. If our relationships with our parents aren?t healthy, and for many of us, this is true, we begin to need love rather than express love. This feeling then gets carried into other relationships.

This sense of neediness is what our society has condoned as normal and acceptable.?Hence, it is difficult to see this neediness as it is such a core aspect of how we see the?world.

I see the world today as suffering from a lack of conscious relationship and full of what I?term ?needy? relationship. I see this as the cause of many worldwide problems that aren?t?always attributed directly to this issue.

Over the next months I will be working with conscious relationship in order to help this?to be easily put into practice. Let us embrace conscious relationship in all its aspects so?that we can release this neediness and allow our lives to become filled with love.

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Editors: April Hayes and Lori Lothian

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